Art Of Persuasion: How Do You Get People To Say Yes To You


A creative ad by Mini Cooper placed at the Zurich , Switzerland train station, shows people climbing into or out of the car, when they are actually entering or exiting stairs. That’s persuasion at its best! More examples below.

I just listened to an mp3 interview with Paul Endress, persuasion extraordinaire and found some of his persuasion techniques insightful. He is also the man behind the persuasion article written for The Toastmaster (May 2008 edition). If you want to listen to the full version of the tutorial, click here. If you are in a hurry, you can first check out my notes below.

While research shows that most people believe they can’t be sold, the fact is those same people can indeed be persuaded if they don’t recognize that a sales tecnique is being used.

The trick lies in the different persuasive strategies used then and now. Lets use a car salesman this time since they top the list as the people you absolutely cannot trust in a poll.

Then: They go on downloading information in you, telling you EVERYTHING you need to know AND don’t need to know.
Basically, its like taking a shotgun with pellets in it, hoping that one of them will hit the target. This doesn’t work anymore!

Now: Being subtle.

The following are strategies for you to adopt as you attempt to persuade your audience, be it one or many.

1. Aiming at the Target

Have you been in a situation where a salesman or saleswoman was trying to sell you something by giving you the 4-1-1 of what he or she is selling while you absolutely couldn’t wait to get away from the guy? That he or she was boring you nuts with all the information?

You felt like running away as soon as he turns his head because he never found out what was IMPORTANT to YOU.

Ask a simple question : “What’s most important to you when you buy a car? ”

“What’s most important to you when you enroll your kids to a programme? ”

“What most important to you when you look for a life partn…( ok you get it by now don’t you? ) ”

This simple question is what gets you the most answers. So for example, if I’m going to go buy a car, what’s important to me is the price.

So if you’re going to sell me a car, you should immediately address my pricing concerns and not go rambling on how energy-efficient and how many awards the car has won. This saves your breath and of course, time spent.

2. Never start your questions with ” WHY? “

Not only is it annoying but you get only excuses.

Lets use an example: If your kid comes back from school with his report card dominated with D’s and E’s and (God Forbid, F’s ), You’ll probably be in a rage and ask ..”WHY did you get D’s and E’s ?? ”

And the answer (or rather, excuse) that you’re going to get is:

“My teacher ate my test paper.”
“My teacher doesn’t really like me.”
“The kids bully me if I get A’s.”

So how can you ask the same question but get solutions instead?

Start your questions with “What” or “How”

These 2 words empowers action in people. You’re still asking the same question, but you shift its mode and then you start to get changes!

3. Use STORIES to convey your message.

Its important to highlight before I continue with how we can use stories that people tend to be too obvious when they use their stories. As a result, they shift back into a sales mode.

Most people cannot come up with a story on the fly. Even Paul suggested practice and fine-tuning our stories to ensure an impactful message and one that really sinks into the human psyche. Remember? Stories, like humour is a process. Your stories are not going to come out fantastic the first time you tell them. Hence, you must be willing to let your stories develop over time.

I suspect, if I let my enthusiasm and excitement get the better of me, you’ll never reach the end of this entry…awake.

That’s why I’m leaving you wanting for more (which happens to be another strategy in persuasion that I shall cover in my next entry)

Promise that my next entry will be shorter..by a bit at least *grins*

Cheers,
Eric Feng
Your Public Speaking Coach

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P.S. Check out these smart advertisements. It’s really persuasion at its best!

6 Comments so far

  1. Martin Lindsey on June 11th, 2008

    Hey Eric. Great story in this month’s Toastmaster magazine. The thumbs down hitch hiking story really cracked me up. Then entire article was a great read. One of my objectives is to add one or two foreign languages to my repertoire.

    Thanks for the inspiration and the laughs. Have a great rest of the week.

    Martin Lindsey, President
    Talk of the Town Club
    Opelika, Alabama, U.S.A

  2. Gaurav on June 12th, 2008

    Stuff we already know. I just wasted 5 minutes of my life reading this stuff…

  3. Eric on June 13th, 2008

    Hey Martin, thanks for dropping in. I am glad you enjoyed the article. I made a lot of boo boos when I was studying in States, which turns out to be a blessing in disguise, since they form my humor content.

    Talking about foreign language, how do Americans create humor with other fellow Americans?

    Guurav, it’s really unfortunate that you felt this way. How about this - share with us what you know about persuasion, that is not in this article.

  4. Terry Gault on June 25th, 2008

    Eric,

    Thanks for the helpful post.

    I definitely agree with your advice about using stories to be persuasive.

    Stories help the presenter get into the “zone” of presenting, since they are intimately familiar with the material and it’s easy to be more animated with an energetic, expressive voice and gestures when telling a story. Telling personal stories helps to make the presenter seem more authentic.

  5. public speaking tips on August 17th, 2008

    Yes,I completly agree with.by inserting stories you are find a common ground between me and my audience.so yeah you will absolutly be persuasive with this technique.

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